Saturday, January 26, 2013

Ask Vanna: "Do you have any tips on keeping a man?"


By Vanna B.

Question: "Do you have any tips on keeping a man?" - Sharia, DE

Answer: Sharia, you are in luck. Having been with the same man (who is now my husband) for 11 years, I consider myself knowledgeable and qualified enough to answer that question. Now most people assume all it takes to keep a man is good cooking and great sex…and that would be incorrect. Don't get me wrong – those are definitely necessities, but keep in mind that women with great sex and top-notch cooking skills are available in abundance. If you want to keep a man and stay in a long-term relationship, you're going to need MORE.

Be interesting and intelligent. In my opinion, this is #1. Have ambition. Stay busy with things that are important to you. Show him how intelligent you are. No man wants a boring, numbskull of a woman. Be able to hold a conversation with him on a variety of topics, including those of interest to him. (Yes, you should know and show interest in the things he likes, and become at least a little knowledgeable on them.)

Give him space. Do not smother your man! Clinginess is a very undesirable trait. If one of the things he likes to do is go out with his friends, don't complain about it every time he steps out. Go out with your girls. Keep doing the things you enjoy. The time you spend apart makes the time you spend together much more enjoyable!

Remain attractive. Don't let yourself go. People's looks and bodies do change with age – that's just a natural part of life – but do your best to keep your appearance attractive. A little effort goes a long way.

Make him feel good. This includes you, yourself being confident and feeling good, as positivity attracts positivity. Do your best to make him feel confident by stroking his ego. Compliment him and let him know he is appreciated. This is also the section in which I would place cooking for him, pleasing him sexually, giving him massages, etc., as those things definitely help him feel satisfied and content. 

Need advice? Have a question or problem you need insight on? E-mail me atmsvannab@yahoo.com.

Check out my Amazon best-selling novel, Fancy and its newly-released sequel, Fancy 2.


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