by TayLang
Is a dog man’s best friend? Are diamonds a girl’s best friend? Those two are certainly something both men and women like but from a relationship’s perspective your “best friend” should be the person that you are with.
Often we jump into relationships so quickly that we forget to take the time to get to know the person. Every now and then people get so caught up in just wanting to have somebody that they rush into a relationship without even knowing who they are with, then later on you marry the person. You might as well be sleeping with the enemy.
How can you truly say you love a person and want to spend the rest of your life with them and you really don’t even know who they are? Take your time getting acquainted with him or her. Just because you meet a person and they seem like the perfect match doesn’t necessarily mean they are the perfect match for you. Some people are better together as a couple. Some people are better together as friends…and the rest of you all are better never having even met!
How many times have you heard this phrase: People come into your life for seasons and reasons? Seasons naturally change and this action is relevant even in your everyday life. It is important that you know and figure out why certain people are in your life. Maybe some people you meet are meant to a business partner versus being your mate. Be careful to not mix the two.
If you are going to mix business with pleasure then the proper thing to do is to marry them and start a family business. Keep it all in the family! Know that everyone has a purpose and spot on your timeline. It is up to you to figure it out.
Babies crawl before they walk. They can’t even get up and go until they properly grow. Keep that in mind when pursuing someone. Take baby steps first instead of giant leaps. Allow the relationship to develop naturally and so that you can grow together. If they can’t grow with you, then they shouldn’t be allowed to go with you. Your boo thang – sweetheart - life partner should be your best friend. How can you be in a relationship and then later pursue marriage with a stranger. Do not base your relationship on the physical outward appearance. “Eye candy” today could turn into “old scraps” tomorrow. Later on, years later when the looks start to fade what will you have to look forward to? Beauty and substance is within, not on the surface. Look deeper and let the foundation of the relationship be built on friendship so that in the future you don’t end up sleeping with the enemy.
I really dig this article. Very well put and certainly true.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Selitha for reading!
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