Patty Stanger's Top 10 Commandments for Dating (Women)

Patti Stanger, CEO of the Millionaire's Club, is the star of Bravo TV's hit The Millionaire Matchmaker, author of the bestselling book How To Become Your Own Matchmaker and the host of the hit XM Radio show P.S. I Love You on XM PINK 24/MIX 22. #1. Thou Shall Return Calls in a Timely Manner Always return a potential love interest's call within 48 hours during the week (72 hours over the weekend). Be courteous...you're not living in the movie Swingers where you're supposed to wait 'x' amount of days to call back. Busy men don't like rude girls – and there's plenty of fish in the sea besides you! #2. Thou Shall Honor Your Commitments Believe it or not, it's hard for a guy to ask a girl out – online or in person. Don't be a flake. If you make plans, keep them. Don't bigger, better deal it! I don’t care if it's George Clooney calling at the last minute – keep your plans! If you weren’t interested in him, you should have never agreed to go out. #3. Thou Shall Let the Man Take the Lead I know it sounds old-fashioned, but it's embedded in their DNA – men need to feel like the HUNTER. Let him call you first. Let him ask you out. If he's shy, invite him to a party – but then let him request the true first date from you! Be the HUNTED!

#4. Thou Shall Leave the History in the Past That means – NO EX TALK! You do not want your guy picturing you having sex with someone else! That also means no baggage dumping, previous health issue talk or discussing any skeletons in your closet. Once you're in that committed relationship – well, that's another story.

#5. Thou Shall Be Focused and Positive Be engaging. Answer his questions with energy and genuine enthusiasm. Keep your attention on him – NOT the hot waiter. Ask questions. Banter (if you can). Listen with eye contact. Make it a conversation – the TWO of you talking back and forth – not interviewing. Think ping-pong match.

#6. Thou Shall Not Drink Too Much I know it's tempting to have a few glasses of wine to relax before or during a date (especially a first one) – but keep it at a two-drink maximum…total. Keep your wits – you need them! Stay clear and focused. Face it, being drunk and slurring your words just isn't attractive.

#7. Thou Shall Not Be a Gold Digger Do not EVER ask for anything of monetary value. He is your potential soul mate – NOT your bank. If he offers to give you something – fine. But NEVER accept cash. He may feel like a big guy paying off your credit card bill or paying your rent – but in the end he'll just end up feeling like he's paying for your affection.

#8. Thou Shall Act Like a Lady Be polite. Say 'please' and 'thank you'. Don't cuss. Don't sit with your legs spread open like a dude. Most men want their women to be refined and courteous. Which also means – don't keep them waiting while you're doing your hair and make-up! It gives the impression that you just don't care about his time or schedule...and that's just not lady-like!

#9. Thou Shall Show Sincere Appreciation…and Interest Men like compliments...just like you do. Remember that. Also remember the 4:1 Rule – once he takes you out four times...do something nice for him! Whether it's making him dinner, baking him cookies or whatever you can. It shows you care and that you're trying too!

#10. Thou Shall not Give Nookie on the First Date Kissing and hugging, that's fine. But no 'in' or 'out.' Take it slow, get into a relationship first – one that's real and asked...not assumed. I don't care how many drinks are involved – giving each other sexual favors before a relationship is asking for there not to be one.

Stay tuned for "Commandments for Men" – coming soon!