The Battle of The Sexes

Written By, Nichelle Walker theblackurbantimes staff writer


"Anything you can do I can do better, I can do anything better than you."

Have you every said this to your spouse? Have you ever thought it in your head or mumbled it
under you breath?

I will admit I have said those lines before out of anger, being upset at some of the things that where going on--so I said it and at the time I meant it. But after I cooled myself off and calmed down, I went back to my regular self and started thinking reasonably-however I can see why you would utter those words to your spouse.

My friends call me old fashion and say I women bash, they tell me all the time--why do you think men can do whatever and women can’t? And it’s not that I don’t think women can do whatever men do, we can! However, we have way more to loose—but my friends disagree with me (not all). So after my post about Black Women staying ringless it made me think. Is this a factor in why were single because we think and act like men? Is it that we are taking over all the roles that men once had? I know I touched on coming from a broken home and that plays a role for men and women. But I’m talking about women saying “well the nigga’s do it, so I’m going to do it.” Do men like women like this?

I think a lot of women now say fuck it, I don’t care anymore. They have the attitudes that some of my friends have--they feel that men and women can do the same things. They feel like there going to do them and live by the above saying.

In my eyes if you both are the same---what’s the use of dating outside of having a smash session? Wouldn’t it be like having a relationship with a person of the same sex? I feel if a man wanted to date a dude than he will have one. (Unless he’s a closet fun boy) If he wanted to be in a relationship with somebody knuckling up like him, talking like him basically acting like him---he would be with a guy. So is this sending some guys packing? Is this one of the reason some guys just hit it and keeping it moving, because there looking for a woman to be soft?

And this goes for us ladies to, you know we don’t want a man doing what we do. Acting like us—the first thing that will come to mind is that he’s gay. You know we want our man to be manly and not switching and talking about what color nail polish he likes---you know. I think and I could be wrong---I have been wrong a few times—but I feel like a guy does not want a girl acting like him. He wants her to be soft and lady like; he does not want her running around telling him she could do the same thing he does.

It’s like your guy saying that to you---you know that’s a lie-men could never do remotely what we do. And no matter how many times we stomp our feet—we can never be like a men-God made us different for a reason. We have to balance one another—even when you have a gay couple you have one person being manly and the other is being soft. It’s just the way it is, relationships have to balance in order to work and if both of you are the same it’s not going to work.

Side Note: (I think this battle of the sexes crap; has ruined what companionship should be about. It has now made us compete with each other instead of holding one another down. It has made us look down and try to be little one another instead of building each other up. It has torn our families and community down until the point where everything is divided. Everything is now about who has more, who is winning and who can make the most money. Women and men look down on those who are beneath them instead of helping--its crazy to me. I just think about Good Times and the episode when Florida wanted to go to school and her husband disagreed at first. It was a family unit in those days so she said fine James if you don’t want me to I won’t. Than after he thought about it, he went out and brought her a book bag and took his check and paid for her classes and surprised her. He thought about all the sacrifices that she’d made for him and her family and he just wanted her to be happy. My thing about that episode was she made him feel like a man she didn’t put him down or tell him about telling her what to do. She just said okay babe and made him see that she was willing to work with him. I think somewhere along the line we have lost that spirit the women have, and the men have forgotten that it’s not always about having control it’s about doing what’s best for your family. And I guess it goes back to not having an example of that growing up--but I’m just saying how I feel)

What are your thoughts and if you disagree tell me. Can men and women do the same things? What’s your take on it lets keep it real…

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