LOVE&BASKETBALL: Congrats! Kevin Durant engaged to the WNBA's Monica Wright of the Minnesota Lynx!!

According to WPGC: "Fun Fact: She has the same name of Sanaa Lathan's character from Love & Basketball! Kevin even tweeted back in 2011 about wanting a girlfriend just like the character Monica Wright!" 

Congrats Kevin & Monica!

Top 5 things your girl wants you to do in bed

5. Give her an orgasm before actual intercourse

Ok, just breathe bro its not like she asking you to learn Russian in a day, which actually might be easier right? From my experience the forplay can be pretty intense if done right. A nibble here a bite there and full oral sometimes fellas can have her shaking like she stuck her finger in an electrical socket.

4. lasting longer in bed.

You shouldnt have to have this convo with another man but its a real conversation we need to have buddy.  Hundred of thousands of guys suffer from this so i hear, but all i can give you is what works for me. While having sex all of us men get over excited, especially if its a woman you have Ben chasing Down for about a year and she's FINALLY giving it up to you. It can be a bit overwhelming and sometime the show is over be for the main event even starts. My tip: take your time. Dont get in it and lose your damn mind stay calm relax and stroke like you've gotten some before. I mean you have gotten some before right?

3. TEASING HER UNTIL SHE BEGS FOR IT

if you are an Avid reader of www.risquecurves.com then you know i am all about men being alpha males.  Sadly what i've noticed is that even the most dominant of males quiver, and cower once a woman is in their bedroom. Fellas when you dominate you dominate completely from the "roota to the toota" as my grandfather would say. Take control. Toss her around a little talk dirty a little women love pure beast mode when its appropriate.

2. More oral sex

Ok, so its 2012 right and i still here guys in bars and at gatherings say, "hell no i dont go Down on my woman"  dude....foreal?  This to me is a fatal flaw. I myself love receiving, so inorder to get brothers you got to give. Because if you dont you can expect a bj like you expect a birthday gift once a year.

1. Learn how to give her an orgasm

surprised? Hope not. This is my number one as im sure it is All womens number one thing they want you to do in bed. As a man my ego use to get in the way I literally lived by the code "you better get yours before i get mine." And with the Friday night street rat I really didnt care, but it wasnt until i met and dated an older woman that i wanted to know the intricate details of a womans body and what made her shiver. Upon this research I learned that when a woman is satisfied "NO" isnt even in their vocabulary. I even had this woman do this thing with grape jelly and....oh sorry almost had a flash back.... The point is learn your womans body.take time make it fun i garuntee you wont be disappointed. Have I told you wrong thus Far....exactly. Oh and for all you lazy selfish ass holes who want the for dummies guide to giving her an orgasm check out..

Orrin Carter

http://www.sexgodmethod.com/sgm/tsbmag.html

What in the world...

As if reality tv isnt enough for us to get that daily dose of what is supposed to be a up close and personal look into someone's life, there is always someone going above and beyond to be extrememly extra in the real world. These people I often call thirsty because there is no other real explanation for such actions. Well in this case we have a man from Russia, Alexey Byko who gets the Supersized WTF Award.

So boy meets girl...

Boy likes girl...

Girl likes boy...

Boy and girl fall in love...

Boy and girl get married...

They live happily ever after...

Seems like the norm for two people wanting start a life together right?
Well, here is where the plot thickens, Alexey decides that he does indeed want to work on forever with his girlfriend Irena but first he must propose, but he doesnt want just any ole basic type proposal. So after some thought, clearly not a lot of it either,Alexey decides that he is going to make this a proposal- One that Irena would NEVER forget.

This dude went out a hired a movie set ensemable of people to help him re-enact a fatal car accident. There was fake blood and everything from a classic scene out of a Final Destination movie all the blood and gore one could imagine. He then called his girlfriend to meet him at the "spot" and once she did it would be lights,camera and plenty of action.

Irena nearly has a coronary upon arrival seeing her dearly beloved covered in blood and cuts and to hear those words that he is dead from the paramedic and she is heartbroken until Alexey rises from the "dead" to walk over to a greiving Irena who is now scared to death and is not quite sure if she is coming or going at this point.

Alexey then proposes fake blood and all with the theme for his crazy ass proposal “I wanted her to realize how empty her life would be without me and how life would have no meaning without me".


#WhereTheyDoThatAt

Irena was mad but later forgave him and they were married a week later...Smh! Let's see if Kimye can top that! Lol ;-)



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Woman entitlement: the step by step process of emasculating a man by @odiggler

<p>&lt;p&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;As I sit in this laundry Matt waiting on my clothes to dry and my ride to pick me up, I cant help but over hear this couple argue.&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp; Apparently the couple had a dinner date set up and this woman who is clearly&amp;amp;amp;amp;nbsp; dating this older gentleman for the 57&amp;amp;amp;nbsp; Chevy classically restored and a piece of his retirement. Seems aggravated because the gentleman is fussing about her standing him up. He is scolding her saying how fucked up that was and all she could utter was "its not that serious."&amp;amp;amp;#160; I damn near fell out my seat laughing at the pair of gonads on this woman for being blatantly disrespectful. But it got me to thinking....&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;br&amp;gt;&lt;br&gt;<br>
&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;There is a double standard amongst men and women that hasnt been addressed and its almost surprising that in this day age men still let the "modern" woman confuse and emasculate us without a fight. It is this pretty much common knowledge... Or at least to me that a woman picks and chooses what is fair and compromising in relationships. we as men are groomed to accept the self rightousness and indignation of the woman population.&amp;amp;#160; Women are raised that the right man for them will love them unconditionally and go above and beyond to make and keep her happy.&amp;nbsp; But what seems to get lost in the shuffle is the reciprocation to the man of their dreams. The new modern woman is taught to damn near hate men and use the mans love for women for they basic and luxurious needs and wants.

I watch this everyday and sadly enough there is no end in site.

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Torn Apart

Destinee Love - Writer/Poet

My insides feel ripped,
Can't seem to filter the pain

I'm slowly, and for certain
Going totally insane

I know what is happening,
I've been here before

I'm stronger and wiser,
But know we mean more

I've been called crazy, and pitiful
For loving a man

Who seems to find pleasure and solace,
With another one's hand

I have no hatred nor regret,
For the time that we shared

If I look back I can remember,
The times that you cared

So much distance between us,
At times not so kind

There was cheating and lying,
I have the visuals stuck in my mind

Forgiveness and trust,
Was given every time

I believed in you, stuck by you
No straying, or breaking the line

I knew this was special,
Right from the start

Falling in love and liking you,
Handing over my heart

Now I'm left with no contact,
And a broken heart

We planned on forever,
Never getting the start

When asked if I still love you,
I don't hesitate to say

I will forget you forever,
Not believing this was fate.

Copyright ©Destinee Love

Love {Expressed} by Destinee Love

Poet/Writer ~ Destinee Love

Love {Expressed}

Commitment is the bond of two souls, the fusion of two 

lives producing the word known as.....“Love”

Love is the promise to love them for life, 

the promise to always see things through

and keep it lasting even when all else fails.

Love is finding that person who

completes you in every way, 

a person who knows you,

better than you know yourself.

Love is waking up every morning

from a smile they put on your face

and them…..thousands of sparkles

that you put in their eyes.

Love is looking forward to every

second spent together every smile, every laugh,

every tear, every hug, and every kiss.

Love is finding that one person who

deeply inspires you. That one person that

never takes you for granted. That one

person that appreciates you for the little

things, and you appreciating them the same.

Love is finding your best friend. 

The one friend you know that will never

degrade or look down upon you, never judge

you, or neglect 99% of your needs. 

To know the meaning of “true love” in a friend.

Love is completely trusting and remaining

faithful to trust. To be able to trust brings

no doubts, no questions, and no heartache.

Two people who love and trust would do

anything to defend, protect, and honor those 

words till their last breath. 

Love is learning 

and growing together

happily and unhappily, 

but working it out

through….

Love!

"A Waltz With Love" #PoetsCorner

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Destinee Love ~ Author/Poet

"A Waltz With Love"


My heart beats for only you my love
feel it reaching for you into the night
to dance a melody of pure delight
the sweetest song of affection from above


Take me into your arms tonight
hold me close and dance real real slow
moving together in the melodious candlelight 
seductive words of delight..not even afraid to show


Meaning more than just the world to me
this is what I’ve been waiting for
a time of healing devotion..your heart to adore
a place where passion exist ..letting it be


Lets hold each other real tight tonight
pressing close and dancing slow
moving together rhythmically in the dim light
belonging with only you love..please never let me go

Destinee Love, Writer of erotic poems & passages. Read my expressions through love, passion, lust, intimacy, and erotica.

“Expressions of Love, Passion, and Intimacy” is my first collection of my spoken words about love, passion, and affection. Once you have experienced it, you can understand the true meaning of it {Ecstasy}.

Visit my blog site http://www.destineelove.com for blog post and excerpts from the book. Also, visit my webpagehttp://www.destineelove.net to get your personalized copy today!!

Valentine's Day is coming!!!!

Destinee Love, Author

Have you given any thoughts on what you would like to do for that special day?  Well, coming up soon I will post some great ideas that does not involve being materialistic or spending unnecessary money.  Who said Valentine's Day had to be about how much you spend on a gift, or given a gift at all?  Sure its nice, but isn't spending quality time with the one you love better than expecting the same old card and flowers every year?  Single?-Doesn't mean you have to let that worry you.  I have great ideas for you too!! Until then, please watch the "Man of Love" video - Turn off the Lights!. This will put a lot of great ideas in your mind. Stay Tuned...

Destinee Love, Writer of erotic poems & passages. 

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Tricking On A Man

Posted By: Nichelle Walker for the theblackurbantimes.com

"Me tricking on a man, not likely"- Nichelle Walker

"It ain’t tricking if you go it"--rappers all around the world..

Well I am very fickle when it comes to tricking on a man. I’ma be real—I’m very old fashion and I believe a woman should not take care of a man.

The bible says “If a man shall not work he shall not eat” Amen to that because I couldn’t agree more with the Lord.

It’s a fine line that is hard not to cross with tricking, sometimes you don’t even see it coming and bam you’re getting used. And to keep it real men use women way more than women use men. Prime example, you think this dude is your main boo, ya’ll kicking it hard. You kicking him down with ends when he asks for money and than you find out he got a wife and kid. No Maim not going to do it. Men can be gold diggers too, just like women and really there better at it! They will get into your head, hit you with some boss peen and pimp you out of your paycheck before you know it. Men have a way of making you feel like there down for you, they get into your ear and whisper let me hold this down—f-- that! If you want to know how to loose a guy in five minutes—just let that ninja asked me for some money--if he ask me for a loan I’m gone.

Even now after being with the same dude since I was 16 I’m 28 now I will only loan him money and he has to pay it back. I don’t take kindly of taken care of a man or giving him my hard earned dollars. You got to pay the cost to be the boss—I don’t see nothing wrong with gifts and meals every now and than but me shelling over ends is out the question.

If a man wants to be the head of the relationship than he got to pay the cost to be the boss—and I’m not saying buying gifts is what he has to do. But taking care of home, yes and I won’t see it any other way. If you get with a chick that like gifts than you know that before you get in to deep with them. My problem is as a woman you have to be careful about tricking on a man.. Make sure he is right and yes I feel you should spend some money on him from time to time. And if your man falls off because we all fall down—you should be there to pick him back up. But your eyes have to be wide open to make sure he’s not trying to get what he can from you. It’s all kinds of ways to pick a man back up and help him get on his feet, like helping him find a job-hooking him up with somebody you know is hiring. If he’s getting unemployment you can stay on top of him to file his claims, things like that. Just be careful because I know a lot of women who have been used by ninja’s pimping---but one thing for sure they won’t get me…

The Battle of The Sexes

Written By, Nichelle Walker theblackurbantimes staff writer


"Anything you can do I can do better, I can do anything better than you."

Have you every said this to your spouse? Have you ever thought it in your head or mumbled it
under you breath?

I will admit I have said those lines before out of anger, being upset at some of the things that where going on--so I said it and at the time I meant it. But after I cooled myself off and calmed down, I went back to my regular self and started thinking reasonably-however I can see why you would utter those words to your spouse.

My friends call me old fashion and say I women bash, they tell me all the time--why do you think men can do whatever and women can’t? And it’s not that I don’t think women can do whatever men do, we can! However, we have way more to loose—but my friends disagree with me (not all). So after my post about Black Women staying ringless it made me think. Is this a factor in why were single because we think and act like men? Is it that we are taking over all the roles that men once had? I know I touched on coming from a broken home and that plays a role for men and women. But I’m talking about women saying “well the nigga’s do it, so I’m going to do it.” Do men like women like this?

I think a lot of women now say fuck it, I don’t care anymore. They have the attitudes that some of my friends have--they feel that men and women can do the same things. They feel like there going to do them and live by the above saying.

In my eyes if you both are the same---what’s the use of dating outside of having a smash session? Wouldn’t it be like having a relationship with a person of the same sex? I feel if a man wanted to date a dude than he will have one. (Unless he’s a closet fun boy) If he wanted to be in a relationship with somebody knuckling up like him, talking like him basically acting like him---he would be with a guy. So is this sending some guys packing? Is this one of the reason some guys just hit it and keeping it moving, because there looking for a woman to be soft?

And this goes for us ladies to, you know we don’t want a man doing what we do. Acting like us—the first thing that will come to mind is that he’s gay. You know we want our man to be manly and not switching and talking about what color nail polish he likes---you know. I think and I could be wrong---I have been wrong a few times—but I feel like a guy does not want a girl acting like him. He wants her to be soft and lady like; he does not want her running around telling him she could do the same thing he does.

It’s like your guy saying that to you---you know that’s a lie-men could never do remotely what we do. And no matter how many times we stomp our feet—we can never be like a men-God made us different for a reason. We have to balance one another—even when you have a gay couple you have one person being manly and the other is being soft. It’s just the way it is, relationships have to balance in order to work and if both of you are the same it’s not going to work.

Side Note: (I think this battle of the sexes crap; has ruined what companionship should be about. It has now made us compete with each other instead of holding one another down. It has made us look down and try to be little one another instead of building each other up. It has torn our families and community down until the point where everything is divided. Everything is now about who has more, who is winning and who can make the most money. Women and men look down on those who are beneath them instead of helping--its crazy to me. I just think about Good Times and the episode when Florida wanted to go to school and her husband disagreed at first. It was a family unit in those days so she said fine James if you don’t want me to I won’t. Than after he thought about it, he went out and brought her a book bag and took his check and paid for her classes and surprised her. He thought about all the sacrifices that she’d made for him and her family and he just wanted her to be happy. My thing about that episode was she made him feel like a man she didn’t put him down or tell him about telling her what to do. She just said okay babe and made him see that she was willing to work with him. I think somewhere along the line we have lost that spirit the women have, and the men have forgotten that it’s not always about having control it’s about doing what’s best for your family. And I guess it goes back to not having an example of that growing up--but I’m just saying how I feel)

What are your thoughts and if you disagree tell me. Can men and women do the same things? What’s your take on it lets keep it real…

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Popping the Question?

Written By, Nichelle Walker--theblackurbantimes staff writer

Eva and Lance Gross sat down with RollingOut.com for a Valentines Day shoot. We all know there headed down the aisle soon, and I love these two together. After reading their interview I have to say you go girl to Eva because Lance is truly a brother with the right attitude. His interview made me think of this post. How long does it take for you to pop the question? And I posed this question for men and women, because in my last debate there were a lot of new millennium women who claimed they wouldn’t mind popping the question, so how long does it take?

I feel that it doesn’t take ten years for a man to know that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

Lance told Rolling Out

”For Gross, there was no need to play games, since Eva captured his heart from the start. According to the talented “House of Payne” star, Marcille was destined to play a permanent role in his life. “With Eva, I knew early on,” he explains. “I’ve been in a lot of relationships, and men usually know whether or not they want to take that step.”

Now as I read that I thought to myself, why does it take so long for a dude to put a ring on it? Is it because we ladies need to start asking? Or maybe we need to stop giving them so much time to get it right? I know marriage is not for everybody, but I feel Lance when he said this. I believe that a man knows and sometimes he can string you along thinking he’s going to find better. Even though he loves you, it’s something missing and he’s still looking but wants to keep you just in case he doesn’t find it. I’m I wrong?

Lance also gives words of advice to his fellow colleges,

"His words of wisdom to colleagues faced with a similar decision? “If you’ve got someone that you love, get along with, and see yourself with, then you might as well make it official,” Gross states. “Let’s set better examples. You don’t have to have a baby mamma, and all of that drama. If she’s the right one, then make it official and put a ring on her finger.”

So I pose a question to you---how long do you think is long enough to wait for a ring. Me I say three years, what do you think?

Read Lace and Eva's interview here http://www.rollingout.com/