Internet Dating: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly!

DISCLAIMER: *** This discussion is not legal advice. If you need legal advice, please contact an attorney immediately.

by RK Hendrick

Always remember: “If it sounds to good to be true, it probably is!”

This tip is from Private Investigator, Bridget Buchholz, who is an experienced Private Investigator, specializing in background checks and locating people across the globe.

Prior to becoming a licensed Private Investigator, Bridget worked for many years as a highly skilled paralegal for a law firm, where she saw many good people file for bankruptcy (after losing everything), just because they got romantically and financially involved with the wrong person.

I have known Bridget for many years! In my opinion, her analytical skills are exceptional and she has a keen sense of perception! Her ability to maintain objective clarity when analyzing multiple data and information sources is the absolute best!

An Observation: I have seen too many situations where an honest and intelligent man has lost his “financial butt” because he made incredibly foolish decisions when interacting with a woman. Meaning: He was thinking with his hormones, instead of his brain!

There is no usual scenario or typical personality that gets duped. However, the common thread that usually exists is the desire for love, sex and/or romance. Followed by the ramifications of making a stupid decision (sometimes repeatedly) and then not knowing what to do next. … The net result being: Serious financial and/or emotional harm!

Tip of the Week: “Internet dating: Safety & Common Sense,”
by Bridget Buchholtz

In the 21st century, many men are now looking for love via the Internet; I mean: Why not, it’s safe right? You can talk to several women at a time, if you don’t like what you read or see (photos), you just move to the next woman.

Here’s the problem: Some of these women are looking to take advantage of you! They tell you what you want to hear, so you can be manipulated into a vulnerable position.

To be candid, many of these women truly are looking for Mr. Right! But, who are they? Where do they come from? Are they married, a criminal, a stalker, have they ever been arrested for domestic violence, financial fraud or drug use? These are the questions you need to ask yourself before getting in too deep!

In one scenario that I am aware of, a woman met a man on-line. The woman was new to the area and stated that she was looking to meet a man who had similar interests.

When the man started dating her and wanted to meet her family, she told him that her mother was in the hospital with cancer, she did not want to burden him with her problems and that she had to stay with her mom at night, since the rest of her family lived out of state.

The man understood and knew what she was going through, as he had recently lost a family member to cancer.

So, after a few weeks, the woman said her mom was doing better and could go home (from the hospital), so now she would able to spend more time with him! … And nothing made him happier, they went dancing, took trips, he bought her expensive gifts, he even asked her to move in with him, which she did.

After about the second week, she told him she needed money to purchase medicine for her mother, which he was more than happy to give it to her.

Later that day, she called him to say her mom had relapsed and she was taking her to a specialist out of town and would be gone for a few days, and that her phone would not be on while her mother was undergoing tests at the hospital.

A few days went by and the man got a letter from his bank, stating his bank account was overdrawn. You guessed it! … She altered his check!

Turns out she was using him to gain access to his bank account; and he was not the first of her victims!

Here are a few red flags if you are looking for love on the Internet:

* If she sounds too good to be true, most likely she is.

* If she is very eager to send you photos of herself, and she is everything you hoped for …and more.

* If she tells you no one has made her laugh in a long time and you sound like the man she’s been waiting for.

* If she tells you she needs for you to send or give her money, because of severe circumstances in her family or personal life.

* If she asks you for your highly personal information or data. (Remember: Identity theft is a huge problem!)

If, after months of correspondence, you have met the right woman and she agrees to meet you:

* Meet your date in a public place and remain in public places until you know she can be trusted.

* Make sure you tell others where and when you will be meeting her. If possible, bring a trusted friend along.

* Make sure she looks exactly like her photographs or immediately walk away.

* Do not pay her expenses to have her come meet you.

If you decide to pursue a relationship after meeting her, discreetly have a full background check done on her, as she may be married, be a stalker, or have a criminal record. In this day and age, you must protect yourself!

Do not reveal your personal information, financial information or security information (pass codes)!

Remember: There are hundreds of excellent and practical suggestions on how to protect yourself in the book “How To Avoid ‘Getting Screwed’ When Getting Laid!” Click HERE or on the title to view.


RK Hendrick can be reached at rk@protectionformen.com

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If you have questions that you would like to ask Bridget Buchholz, you may contact her via phone or email!

Bridget Buchholz
503-480-9137
bbuchholz@msn.com
“Excellence in Investigations”


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